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#313: The Coaching Skills Behind Every Transformation You’ve Heard on This Podcast
Episode Summary
Twenty five years ago, a doctor told me I would not be around to raise my babies. I was a young mom with a newborn and a three year old, and my body was showing signs of a stroke from anxiety.
I tried everything. New churches. Meditation. Mantras. Journaling. Every one of them helped for about a minute, because none of them reached the root of the problem.
Then a random acquaintance asked me if I had ever heard of coaching.
I searched it on the very young internet, and the first skill I found is the same skill I am teaching live on August 17th.
For years you have asked me to teach the actual skills underneath the results you hear about on this podcast. This episode is my ‘yes.’
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- The wake up call that sent me looking for something deeper than mantras and journaling
- Why the strategies most women try for anxiety work for about a minute and then stop working
- How my client Deidre Clifton went from losing a week of sleep over one hard conversation to a life she describes as organized
- What it means to become your own coach, and why one skill is the foundation under all 25 that I teach
Key Takeaways:
- Mindset Work Is Not a Side Benefit, It Is the Engine
Women come to me for one specific thing and leave describing better marriages, healed relationships, raises they finally asked for, and anxiety that is gone. The skill set is the same in every room of your life, whether you run a business, a household, or both. Change how you think and every area moves at once. - Temporary Relief Is a Signal, Not a Failure
If a practice helps for a minute and the anxiety comes right back, the practice is not broken and neither are you. It simply is not reaching the root. Root level work is a skill, and skills can be taught. - You Are the One Creating the Resentment
Deidre believed her husband’s requests for help outside were the problem. What she learned is that she was creating her own resentment, and that is the best news in this episode. What you create, you can change. She can now say no in a way that feels good for both of them.
Memorable Quotes
“You are going to die, not someday, but soon.”
“Those things would help for about a minute. But my anxiety came right back because none of them got to the root of the problem.”
“My life is organized. I don’t live in reaction mode anymore.”
“You’re going to learn how to become your own coach.”
FAQ
Q: What is this episode about?
Charlotte Smith shares the personal story behind her mindset coaching work and announces that she is teaching her actual coaching skills for the first time.
Q: What is mindset coaching?
Mindset coaching is a set of teachable thinking skills that help you find and change the root cause of stress, resentment, and reaction mode, rather than managing the symptoms.
Q: When is the free class?
Monday, August 17th at 10 AM PT. It is live, it is free, and it covers the one foundational skill under all 25 skills Charlotte teaches.
Q: Who is the free class for?
Any woman who wants to learn the coaching skills for herself. You do not need to run a business, and you do not need to be a farmer. The skills apply to marriage, parenting, work, and anxiety alike.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Free Live Class, Monday August 17th. If you have tried everything to feel calmer and steadier and the relief never lasts, this hour is for you. Open to every woman, no business required. Charlotte teaches the one coaching skill that sits underneath all 25 she uses with clients, and you will feel something shift the same day. Save your seat at charlottemsmith.com/class
- The Profitable Mindset Academy. The full training in all 25 coaching skills, so you can become your own coach. Open to all women. Registration opens August 17th, details shared live in the class.
- Episode 312 with Deidre Clifton. Deidre tells the full story behind the moments referenced here: the resentment, the sleepless weeks, and what changed. Listen to Deidre’s episode here
About the Host
Charlotte Smith is a farm marketing coach, podcast host, and the founder of The Profitable Farmer. She’s a 5th generation farmer, now supporting the 6th, together. Charlotte coaches approximately 300 farmers per year across the United States and 15 other countries, helping them shift from selling-out-but-broke to genuinely profitable through clear branding and customer-focused marketing.
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For as long as I’ve been teaching and coaching women and interviewing them here on the podcast,
sharing how their life has changed in amazing ways and become so much more fulfilling when they get
coached by me, I have been receiving all this time messages, emails,
and it comes up on coaching calls and in-person events and people saying, Charlotte.
My sales are up. My life has changed. And the mindset coaching is what helped everything.
Will you ever teach us the actual coaching skills you use? And finally,
the answer is yes. It’s taken me a while to put them all, record them all in the trainings.
and get them ready, but they are finally ready. And here’s why it’s such a wonderful thing that I
get to do this. It’s my passion in life. It’s my calling. Because when I work with women,
about 250 to 300 women a year in my coaching program,
they look back over our year together. They are blown away at how every area of their life changed.
They say the same thing over and over. The mindset coaching helped every area of their life.
They’re making more money. They’re confidently asking their boss for a raise or for different hours
or to work from home. Their marriage has never been better. Many of them say that.
Relationships that were broken are finally healed. They get along better with everyone in their
life. They used to live with lots of anxiety and stress and overwhelm,
and that is gone. Their life is finally peaceful. It is just endless,
infinite, the list of improvements in their lives. And again, you’ve heard many of them share their
stories on the podcast. And the skills underneath all of that, the coaching skills, I’ve never been
able to teach them until now. I’m finally able to do it. It starts with a free live class on
Monday, August 17th. And you can sign up for that at charlottemsmith.com forward slash.
class. I want to tell you why these skills are so important to me and why this is my life’s work.
Because this isn’t just a curriculum. This is the reason I am alive today.
25 years ago, I was a young mom. I had a brand new baby. I had a three-year-old and my body was
falling apart. My doctor told me I was having signs of a stroke from anxiety.
And he said, you are going to die, not someday, but soon.
This could be massive. He said, if I didn’t change something, I wouldn’t be around to raise my
babies. It was a huge shock, wake up call. I changed so many things in my life.
I tried everything. I tried new churches, meditations, mantras, journaling, all kinds of things.
And those things would help for about a minute. But my anxiety came right back because none of them
got to the root of the problem. Someone asked me then if I had ever heard of coaching.
It was just a random acquaintance I ran into. She said, asked if I’d heard of that.
And I hadn’t because again, this is 25 years ago, but I searched it on the very young internet at
that time. And I found it and I learned. And the very first thing I learned is the one skill I’m
teaching on August 17th. So it was so life-changing for me.
And I want to share with you, you heard from my client D last week on the podcast. So here’s how it
changed her life. It not just saved my life, but it is so many women. you heard from her last week,
are healing from autoimmune diseases. Just one small example from her episode is her husband would
come in after work and ask her to go outside and help him with something. And she’d already had her
own busy day, plus taking care of her kids, their kids, of course, and she felt resentful.
And what did she do when she felt resentful? Well, she felt like she had to go help him anyway. She
felt guilty saying no. So she was angry. She stood. She made sure that he could feel how miserable
she was. And their evenings were no fun.
And it cost her. It cost her the time, but also the… how you feel in your body when you have such
anger, resentment, stress going on. And she was probably short with her kids that night too,
whenever this happened. So her life was not fulfilling. She signed up for coaching with me.
She learned the skills I teach and she learned how she was the one creating her resentment.
I will show you this. It’s so life-changing. When you learn this. So she used to lose sleep.
She used to not sleep for a week if she thought someone was mad at her. Again, you heard this all
in her episode in her story last week. She was constantly in reaction mode.
Today, in her words, she said, my life is organized. I don’t live in reaction mode anymore.
I have a clear stop to my day. I have family time and I can say no to my husband in a way that
feels good for both of us. If I can’t help him. All right. And this is what I’m teaching you on
Monday. Again, my free live masterclass. And it is, I will share with you how I’m teaching you all
the 25 different coaching skills that I teach. But that Monday, I will take about an hour to teach
you the one coaching skill that is the foundation of all of them. All right,
so you can sign up at charlottemsmith.com forward slash class. The link is also in the show notes.
Save your seat for free and you will feel something shift that day from the one skill you learn.
And again, I’ll share with you how you can learn all the skills in the Profitable Mindset Academy
that opens up for registration that day too. So this class is my answer to years of you all asking
for the training on how the mindset coaching skills that I already use.
You’re going to learn how to become your own coach. So I’d love to see you in that class. Take care
and I’ll talk to you next week.
